بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم…..
Few days before, I had a conversation with my ex-boss.. My company leads by 3 bosses, and 1 of them decide to migrate to Aussie, so only 2 more left.. So, before we separated, me and him had our last breakfast nearby the office.. We often have our breakfast together, talk about things, sharing ideas or knowledge and so on..
So…. on that day, he shared with me regarding his kid, which have an Asperger’s Syndrome.. I never herd about this things, so he shared what he knows about it..
Asperger’s Syndrome is some sort of development disorder, which some of the kids have.. They seems to have some trouble in learning few basic tasks.. My boss told me that his son have trouble in reading the face expression, for example when people are showing uneasy face, he just can’t read it.. That kid also has a problem in socializing, and motor systems.. Don’t want to elaborate more on that stuff, which we can find a better specialist, or website that can tell us more info for that.. 😀 😀
Now, what I find amused and keen to share with is regarding how my boss dealt with this matter.. At first, he and his wife does not realized that his son have this problems.. In fact, his son seems like a genius.. There’s one time, when he and his wife had a some sort of competition between them.. They listen to some Chinese Philosophy’s Poem, which have around 50 verse, and tried to remembered it.. Which one got the most correct in certain duration, will be the winner.. I found that, this is a good way to spent with my future wife later on…!
So… When the time comes for them to test their skills in memorizing, both of them unable to remember all the 50 verse, and they stop at certain verse.. Suddenly, their 2 years old’s son continued from where they stop, and fluently finishing the remaining verse.. That kid remembered every single words of it!!
When that kid started to grow up, he showed seems different compared to other kids.. He had trouble in getting along with other kids at his age.. Why? There are 2 reasons which can be separated into good and not so good..
- He develop his interest in Dinosaurs, and love everything about them.. He even read the researches, encyclopedias, university’s level text book and so on, just to know more about them (Dinosaurs).. He is an expert in everything regarding Dinosaurs, and he even critics the latest Jurassic World Movie, which he found out that there are many wrong facts in that movie..
- Because of his interest, when he plays with with kids around his age, he ‘showered’ them with these knowledge he has, making other kids kinda keep a distance from him.. But, he does not know that they don’t like it.. He can’t read that kind of reaction people gave.
So, my boss and his wife spent a lot of time researching, do some readings, which is kinda hard at that time since the internet is not like nowdays…. They even asked for help from their siblings to buy some books in US..
After done some research by themselves, they diagnosed the problem the son had was Asperger Syndrome.. So, they refer to the specialist for confirmations… After the specialist also come out with the same conclusion, they started the rehab to improve what their son seems to lack of..
The son then went to normal Chinese’s school, and attending the normal classes like other kids when he started to get better.. But then, my boss faced 1 more challenge.. The son seems to have different way of thinking, which he started to do things on his own way, rather than do what he asked to do by the teachers.. The teachers also told my boss’s wife to prevent that kid from do anymore readings, and just focus on the school works.. The imaginations, the creativity of that kid had slowly been erased because he had to do so..
So, when I herd his story, It brought my mind to a talk delivered by Sir Ken Robinson on “Do school kill creativity?”
I think, what Sir Ken shared was extremely accurate and correct! But, I would like to make it more precise, as it not just school that kills the creativity, but the community did..
In Malaysia, there are some kind of perceptions that is similar to all the citizens, which is the levels, or hierarchy of the occupations defined the status of the person itself.. For example, comparing mechanics to doctors, the doctors will have more respect and will be look upon more compared to mechanics.. They assumed that the doctors are more educated, got more pay, and valued more than mechanics.. Even the parents will ask their kids, “Study hard so that you can be a doctor!” not “Study hard so that you can be a mechanics!”.. There are many types of de-motivated actions or words usually used, but I’m not gonna elaborate more in this post.. Maybe next time… 😉
The education’s system also drive us towards of being these so-called high levels people (or occupations).. Which student got better results in test will sit on the so-called success student’s classes.. Which student not doing so well in class will be ‘rejected’ to lower classes… What is the point of educations, if we differentiate a person who got better result will be in good class, who not doing so well will be put in lower class? From what I understand, educations should be equal, and the problems one should get more attention rather than the excellent students… I know how it felt when a student was being drove away due to not performed to the system’s standard…
This kind of perceptions, this kind of thinking can be change if we accept the facts that every human on earth might have its own way of doing things, and have individual skills.. Special on its own way… Not just forcing them to do something like we do, or something we WANT TO DO.. That is even worst if we trying to push them to achieve what we can’t..
learning can be anywhere, anytime
Segala ilmu adalah terkandung dalam Al Quran Al Karim… Ini panduan kita, ini asas kita, ini pegangan kita.. Seharusnya diterapkan asas agama bermula dari kecil, supaya pegangan itu yang boleh dibawa sehingga ke tua… Anak-anak kecil senang untuk menghafal, mengingati… tanamkan ingatan yang bersyariat, dan mengingati tatacara dan akhlak yang mula sejak dari kecil.. Akhlak adalah suatu yang tidak dapat diajar dengan lidah, melainkan dilaksanakan dengan anggota sebagai ikutan yang lain…
Berkata Syeikh Rohimuddin Al Bantani, mendidik anak-anak adalah umpama mendidik nafsu.. Jika kita gagal mendidik nafsu, kemungkinan kita akan gagal mendidik anak-anak kita..
Paksaan dalam Agama adalah WAJIB, dan ‘paksaan’ disini boleh bermain dalam 2 keadaan, samaada keadaan lembut, ataupun keras.. Paksaan keras adalah secara arahan dalam bentuk lisan, atau mungkin digunakan anggota sebagai peringatan, namun paksaan lembut yang jarang orang lakukan..
Apakah paksaan lembut??
Paksaan lembut adalah didikan dan tunjuk ajar yang bertalu-talu secara tidak langsung kepada individu.. ‘Mengarah’ manusia untuk menurut kehendak kita tanpa kita mengeluarkan arahan.. Menggunakan ‘subconscious mind’ of a person itself..Itu yang ramai orang tidak tahu…. Contoh yang senang untuk melihat didikan secara berterusan dan paksaan secara lembut ini adalah melalui filem, atau drama, atau yang berkenaan.. Secara tidak langsung, apa yang dipaparkan, baik dari sudut perbuatan mahupun idealogi, dapat kita terima, sedangkan ‘sang penyampai’ tidak memaksa kita pun untuk menurutnya…
Jadi….. I’ve lost the point of what I’m about to write right here… hahahaha… Hope everything will be benefits to us….
Wallahua’lam…
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